Burdens of Life...

~ Posted on Sunday, August 1, 2010 at 12:06 AM ~

Sharing these quotes I came across the Internet through my blog meme:

Looking at the quote above, I remembered a year ago, when I was toying with the idea to be a SAHM, I was worried of course! Less 1 income to the family (On monthly average, I earned more than my hubby at that time as his business is just picking up). Are we going to be able to continue our standard of living? What about healthcare? All sorts of questions lingered on my mind but when the time came to decide, I went ahead and quit my high paying job and trust God will help us pull through this.

Maybe my case is different, but ever since I'm pregnant with Ben, there are a few situations which made us stop and think, "Who are we to plan all this?" And one phrase from our previous pastor stood out "God's will, God's bill". If He brings you to it, He will brings you THROUGH it!

Read: Matthew 6:25 (NIV), Matthew 6:34 (NIV), Proverbs 27:24 (NIV), Psalm 39:6 (NIV)

From the time we were trying to search for a nanny or babysitter to take care of Ben when I go back to work after maternity leave (2 months for Malaysia) and then meeting a nice Christian sister who asked us why not take care of the baby ourselves and which we then ended up with me quitting my job to become a SAHM and caring for Ben,

From the time my confinement lady (kinda like a doula) who suddenly broke her right leg 2 weeks before I was due which we ended up doing our own DIY confinement and take care of Ben ourselves from day 1,

From the day I was supposed to be admitted to hospital to induce labor (low amniotic fluid) to suddenly starting contractions (without me knowing until I was leaving for the hospital) and ended up having the most awesome supernatural childbirth (going from 0 to 10cm in 4.5 hours)

The above are some of the few awesome works of God in our lives.

You know, 1 year on since I quit my job to be a SAHM, hubby's business is getting better, I don't need to be worried about our one income less because God is good! He provides! I get a small allowance from hubby every month and I can still give my tithes every month. Yes, the amount may be way smaller than what I used to tithe but it's still 10% of my income. I don't need to beg other people for money. My savings are still untouched, in fact, I think it is growing bit by bit, thanks to the allowance gave by my hubby, which of course, thanks to God who provides the continuous projects and jobs to hubby's business!

I have my family members, friends and ex-colleagues to thank for. They passed on their kids' toys and clothings down to us (some of them are still brand new and some clothings and shoes are worn few times only). For us, we do not mind at all! Receiving all this wonderful gifts helped us save a lot! Maybe some would think we have to be money conscious and stinge in every situations and are like beggars to be accepting all this freebies and pass-me-down but we don't think that way, and whatever others choose to perceive, we can't control or have a say to that.

* I'd rather save my money and be glad to receive all the toys and pass-me-down items and used our money for savings and wise investments rather than splurging it on new or branded items for Ben or to maintain our lifestyle.

* I'd rather save my money, faced the challenges in designing my own blog than hiring a web designer to do it for me.

Being a SAHM, I think I'm fullfiling God's promises for our family.

I trust that He will lead us to the right path.

Read: Psalm 138:8 (NIV), Proverbs 19:21 (NIV), 2 Thessalonians 1:11 (NIV)

I hope to save up my treasures in heaven rather than on earth!

Read: Ecclesiastes 2:26 (NIV), Ecclesiastes 5:10 (NIV), Matthew 6:19 (NIV), Matthew 6:20 (NIV)

Have a blessed weekend to all of you!

My Child...

~ Posted on Wednesday, July 28, 2010 at 9:08 PM ~

Came across this wonderful post that I've just gotta share on my blog:

(*Btw, you can hover over the scripture link at the end of each sentence to read the detailed phrases)

MY CHILD

You may not know me, but I know everything about you.     Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up.     Psalm 139:2

 

I am familiar with all your ways.     Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered.     Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image. Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.     Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring.     Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived.     Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation.     Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book.     Psalm 139:15-16

 

I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live.     Acts 17:26

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.     Psalm 139:14

I knit you together in your mother's womb.     Psalm 139:13

And brought you forth on the day you were born.     Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented by those who don't know me.     John 8:41-44

 

I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love.     1 John 4:16

And it is my desire to lavish my love on you.     1 John 3:1

Simply because you are my child and I am your father.     1 John 3:1

I offer you more than your earthly father ever could.     Matthew 7:11

For I am the perfect father.     Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand.     James 1:17

For I am your provider and I meet all your needs.     Matthew 6:31-33

My plan for your future has always been filled with hope.     Jeremiah 29:11

Because I love you with an everlasting love.     Jeremiah 31:3

 

My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore.     Psalm 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing.     Zephaniah 3:17

I will never stop doing good to you.     Jeremiah 32:40

For you are my treasured possession.     Exodus 19:5

I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul.     Jeremiah 32:41

And I want to show you great and marvelous things.     Jeremiah 33:3

If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me.     Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart.     Psalm 37:4

For it is I who gave you those desires.     Philippians 2:13

I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine.     Ephesians 3:20

For I am your greatest encourager.     2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles.     2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you.     Psalm 34:18

As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart.     Isaiah 40:11

One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes.     Revelation 21:3-4

And I'll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth.     Revelation 21:3-4

 

I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus.     John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed.     John 17:26

He is the exact representation of my being.     Hebrews 1:3

 

He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you.     Romans 8:31

And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.     2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled.     2 Corinthians 5:18-19

His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you.     1 John 4:10

I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love.     Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me.     1 John 2:23

And nothing will ever separate you from my love again.     Romans 8:38-39

 

Come home and I'll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen.     Luke 15:7

I have always been Father, and will always be Father.     Ephesians 3:14-15

My question is.Will you be my child?.     John 1:12-13

I am waiting for you.     Luke 15:11-32

Love, God

 

Beautiful right?

Ben's Disturbing Habit of Banging His Head...

~ Posted on Sunday, July 25, 2010 at 2:39 PM ~

Sigh... we have been observing this disturbing habit of Ben for the past few weeks now and I'm reading up on the article about it at BabyCenter website. Notes in blue below are excerpts from the article:

Why does my toddler purposely bang his head?
Head banging is surprisingly common. Up to 20 percent of babies and toddlers bang their head on purpose, although boys are three times more likely to do it than girls. Head banging often starts in the second half of the first year and peaks between 18 and 24 months of age. Your child's head banging habit may last for several months, or even years, though most children outgrow it by age 3.

 

Sigh... Boys are 3 times more likely to do this than girls?!! And peaks between 18-24 months of age?! Ben is 16.5 months now and he's already banging his head! And the article mentioned that most children outgrow the habit by age 3?!!! Oh crap... Ben has got a longgggggggggg way to go then...

Based on the possible reasons listed, I think for Ben's case, he bangs his head because:

* He's frustrated ("If your toddler bangs his head during temper tantrums, he's probably trying to vent some strong emotions. He hasn't yet learned to express his feelings adequately through words, so he's using physical actions. And again, he may be comforting himself during this very stressful event.") and

* He needs our attention ("Ongoing head banging may also be a way for your toddler to get attention. Understandably, you may tend to become solicitous when you see your child doing something that appears self-destructive. And since he likes it when you fuss over his behavior, he may continue the head banging in order to get the attention he wants.").

He only does that when he is playing with us (hubby and me) and when one of us go "No Ben, don't do that!" and off he goes and bang his head. Or when he tries to do something (for example stack the Megablok toys) and unable to do so, then off he goes and bang his head.

I can see the tell-tale signs that he's about to bang his head on the floor. It's either 'No Ben, don't do that' or he gets frustrated then he will step away to a wider space, get ready and squat down, head lower down and then he delivers one swift bang on the floor. He only bangs his head once and then he'll stand up, rub his forehead and started to cry if he does it too hard. Otherwise, he'll rubs his forehead, stood still with his angry and frustrated look until we diverted his attention elsewhere and he will forget about it and goes on playing.

The only picture I can find that comes quite close to how it looks like when he is going to bang his head is like the picture below but he does it real fast and he's clever to choose a wider space area for his head banging actions.

Now what can we do about it?

Give your toddler your attention — but not when he's banging.
Make sure your child gets plenty of positive attention from you when he's not banging his head. If he still bangs his head to get your attention, though, try not to make a big deal about it, or you may reinforce the behavior. Even if you can't completely disregard the behavior, don't scold or punish him for it. He's too young to understand the situation, and your disapproval may only make matters worse.

Protect your child from injury.
Check all the screws and bolts on your toddler's crib once a month or more to make sure the rocking isn't loosening anything. You can also put rubber casters on the crib legs and hang a soft fabric or quilt between the crib and the wall to reduce noise and to minimize wear and tear on the walls and floor. Don't put pillows or blankets in his crib to soften his surroundings, because these are a suffocation hazard. If you want to use bumpers on your toddler's crib to soften his blows, make sure that they're thin, firm (not puffy), and securely tied to the crib railings, so your toddler can't get his head between the bumper and the railing.

Try not to worry.
Your toddler may get a bruise or two, but don't worry — head banging is usually a "self-regulating" behavior. This means your child is unlikely to hit his head hard enough to seriously injure himself. He knows his threshold for pain and will pull back on the throttle a bit if the banging hurts.

Help foster your child's love of rhythm in other ways.
Your child clearly likes a good steady beat, so help him find other outlets for his love of rhythm. Experts often recommend dancing, marching, and drumming or clapping to music together. You might also try putting a metronome in your child's room to give him the comfort of a steady rhythm. Make sure he gets lots of physical exercise during the day, too, to help him burn off some of the nervous energy that may feed his head banging.

 Consult a doctor if your child's behavior becomes worrisome.
If your child bangs his head a lot during the day or continues to bang his head even though he's hurting himself, you may have cause for concern. Though it's uncommon, head banging can be associated with autism and other developmental disorders, which sometimes become apparent during the toddler and preschool years.

 

Ok... currently, whenever Ben bangs his head, we'll actually try to stop him (if we can catch him on time) but otherwise, after he bangs his head, we'll pull him over and tell him in a stern voice not to do that (and now reading the above which mentioned scolding and punishing won't help cos he's too young to understand), oh well, we really need to be super patient and try not to over-react when he does it since it's a self-regulating behavior. And we've also gotta look for ways to channel his energy to other activities (dancing and clapping to music sounds like a good idea!) After all, we might have to wait and ride this out until Ben turns 3 year old... gulp...