What It Means To Be A Malaysian

~ Posted on Monday, June 30, 2014 at 12:08 AM ~

I came across this article on what it means to be a Malaysian. I agree with the article:

"A foreigner reading the local news of late would be left with the impression that Malaysians were an unhappy lot – paranoid that their respective communities were under threat and quick to provoke or threaten other Malaysians in the name of their race or personal beliefs. But it would be a mistake to stereotype all Malaysians based on what a few individuals, claiming to be their community’s representatives, say."

To be honest, it hurts every time I read about certain individuals raising up issues to divide, to bring down, to condemn, to devalue and many more disrespectful and disgusting acts.

 Being Malaysian to me is living in a multi-racial country, each and every one of us care and respect one another.

 I am proud to be a Malaysian, so I say to these individuals,

"Stop trying to divide us up with issues on religions, on races, on historical foundations and more. These are the very things that made up Malaysia to what it is today. These are the things that make Malaysia as unique and yet diverse and a wonderful blend of peaceful people."

 

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Your Words Have Power, Use Them Wisely

~ Posted on Friday, June 27, 2014 at 7:46 AM ~

Our 5 years old boy attends Sunday school and on Father's Day, I went to pick him up around the time his class ends but I realised there are many more kids who are still at the final stage of finishing their Father's Day crafts. I saw our boy standing next to a teacher, waiting patiently as the teacher folded what looks like a wire or cable from where I stood. When the teacher was done, she passed the completed crafts to our boy who happily walked around and he didn't even realised I called his name.

I was about to call him again when I saw him talking to another boy and after that, our boy's face changed. He looks angry and with 2 hands resting behind his back, he showed his angry face at the boy and shouted something. The boy, seeing our boy's angry face palmed his face and walked off. I then saw our boy walked towards a male teacher and explained something to the teacher. I waited to see what is going on and tried to assess the situation from where I stood. The male teacher who was also rushing to finish up other kiddos' crafts, just nodded at what our boy said and didn't act further.

Our boy turned around and saw me. He walked over to me and showed me his crafts.

It was an origami of working shirt for Father's Day. The obvious part done by the teacher(s) are the origami folding and the hanger wire or cable part. The working shirt has front and back coloring done by our boy and I like what I see. I like that the 'Happy Father's Day' words are colored nicely and within the characters (not out of line) and I also like that the 2 childrens' faces are closer to human skin color.

But you know what our 5 years old boy said to me?

"Mummy, that boy (pointing to the boy who palmed his face earlier) said my coloring is ugly!"

Aahhh.... now I get it. Now I know why our boy looked angry after talking to that boy. I mean, will you be happy if someone critisizes your hardwork?

Parents, remember, our words have power, remember to use them wisely.

Sigh... saddens me to know a child at such young age can utter such thing. You know, for a child to say something like this, they must have been exposed to such statements around their life.

What has a mum got to do in this situation? This is my conversation with our boy as we leave his class that day...

Me: Benjamin, did you color the crafts yourself?

Ben: Yes.

Me: Wow, mummy likes it very much. I like how you color each letters within itself and I like that the childrens' faces are yellow. Did you choose the color yourself?

Ben: Yes. But that boy said my drawing is ugly! I am angry at him!

Me: Well Ben, who is this craft for?

Ben: It's for daddy. For Father's Day.

Me: Is that boy your daddy?

Ben: No.

Me: Well, then why do you let yourself be bothered with the boy's comment? He is not your daddy, and you are not making this craft and coloring it for that boy. No need to be angry for this.

Ben: (silence)

Me: Now, most important thing to remember is you tried your best in doing this craft yourself. Did you give your best?

Ben: Yes, I color my best!

Me: Well then that is all that matters. That you do it all by yourself, nobody helps you to color at all. I'm sure daddy would be proud of your work too!

Ben: But that boy made me angry!

Me: It's OK, forgive him.

 

So parents, again... choose your words wisely. Say, do, react and response in positive manners as it will echo in other areas of your kiddos' life.

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Shorter Time Between Pregnancies Linked To Earlier Delivery

~ Posted on Monday, June 23, 2014 at 7:41 AM ~

"Women who become pregnant again within 18 months after having a baby are more likely to deliver early, according to a new study. Past reports have also linked having a short interpregnancy interval with a greater risk of premature birth.

The findings suggest a short interpregnancy interval is also linked to the risk of a baby being born a week or two early, though not technically premature. These early term births at 37 and 38 weeks of gestation (full term is 39 to 40 weeks) can have a negative impact on a newborn’s health.

Waiting could help mothers manage their weight and stay healthy and also benefit their earlier child’s health and wellbeing. "

When I came across this article, I can't help but to compare against my records.

1st kiddo - I was pregnant at 39 weeks+ before I delivered naturally.
2nd kiddo - I was pregnant at 38 weeks+ before I delivered naturally. Gap between 1st and 2nd kiddo is 2.5 years.
3rd kiddo - I was pregnant at 38 weeks+ before I delivered naturally. Gap between 2nd and 3rd kiddo is 2 years.

Although our kiddos' gap were between 2 to 2.5 years, based on my records, my labours were getting shorter.

How about yours?

(Source: Reuters UK)

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