Sharing - Painful Things People Often Say To Women Who Have Miscarried

~ Posted on Tuesday, February 2, 2016 at 7:56 AM ~

I came across this article which I must definitely share with you guys as I'm very interested to know your thoughts on this. Do note that sharing this does not mean I agree or disagree with it. To view the video on YouTube, you can click on the images below. For your convenience, I have copied the excerpts from the article here:

Women have revealed the painful and insensitive things people said to them after suffering a miscarriage in a thought-provoking 35-second video. The clip, produced by pregnancy charity Tommy's, features misjudged remarks such as 'it happened for a reason' and 'at least it wasn't a real baby yet'.

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Others were told: 'At least it happened early' and 'There'll be plenty more chances'.

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 Some women were offered 'reassurance' with the words: 'At least you can get pregnant.'

 The video is part of a campaign called #miscourage to end the taboo around the subject. It follows a recent study suggesting that 85 per cent of women who suffer a miscarriage don't think people understand what they have been through.

The research, carried out by Tommy's in November 2015, also showed that 70 per cent of women feel guilty about miscarriage and 79 per cent feel like a failure.

The #miscourage campaign aims to encourage people who have been affected to speak out and share their experiences, in order to change the lack of awareness around the subject.

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It is supported by writer Viv Groskop and broadcaster Lisa Francesca Nand, who have both suffered miscarriages.

One of the campaign's main aims is to change legislation in the UK; currently, women have to endure three consecutive miscarriages before their case is fully investigated. Jane Brewin, the CEO of Tommy's, said: 'It is not acceptable for a couple to go through this much suffering and uncertainty. 'We would like to see an immediate reduction to two and ultimately our aim is that every miscarriage is taken seriously and thoroughly investigated.'

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Getting Your Kids To Do Chores With Minimal Complaining

~ Posted on Wednesday, January 27, 2016 at 6:44 AM ~

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Getting your kids to do their chores can be a chore in and of itself, as all too many parents know. Besides keeping the house in order, household responsibilities are important because they help give kids a sense of purpose, and they build confidence, said Julie Freedman Smith of Parenting Power. So how do you manage that challenging battle of wills? Here are four tips that might help.

1. Set clear expectations

Step one is to be crystal clear with your kids what you expect and when you expect it to be done, says Freedman Smith. To start with, take the time to do it with them so that they're comfortable and feeling confident about their ability to do what you've asked them to do. Freedman Smith then recommends taking a picture to set a standard.

Getting Your Kids To Do Chores With Minimal Complaining

"Here's what your room looks like when it's clean. Let's put these pictures on the back of your door. Now you check. Does that corner look like the picture of what that corner is supposed to look like?" she offered.

2. Hold your kids accountable

After you've agreed on a set standard, you need to establish some consequences, Freedman Smith said. "We need to hold them accountable to that, because if we just say it and don't hold them accountable, then they learn to not do it." If you find your kids in the habit of complaining or procrastinating, you might need to sit down and have a conversation about responsibilities and consequences.

Getting Your Kids To Do Chores With Minimal Complaining

3. Be realistic

Don't give your kids chores to do that you know they're never going to do, Freedman Smith said. "If you like those perfect hospital corners on beds, and your kids aren't going to do it, and then you're going to go in and do it afterwards? Totally defeating the purpose, because it's sending a message to the child that they can't do it," Freedman Smith said. She also cautions against dressing chores up so they seem like play. "Not everything has to be fun," Freedman Smith said.

"There are lots of things that we do in our lives that are not particularly fun and need to get done. If we start early, then we set up a pattern, and kids get into the habit of doing it. "Then we go on and do the fun stuff."

4. Mix it up

What's expected of a three-year-old is completely different than what's expected of an 18-year-old, and parents shouldn't be afraid to update their standards as children learn the tasks and how to do them better. "Start small. Pick a few. Get them working well. Then as they get better, you can add to it," Freedman Smith said.

To avoid falling into gender stereotypes when it comes to chores, she recommends alternating who does what. For example, January could be garbage duty for one child this month, and dish duty for the other, and in February the two switch. Most importantly, if it's not working, try something else. "Do it in a way that's going to work for your family so that you will stick to it."


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Given how tricky it can be to just get your child to sit still for a moment, you'd be forgiven for not analysing the position they're choosing to sit in too much. But there's one position which little kids love to use - maybe you loved to use it, too - and its prevalence is causing a lot of concern.

The common 'W' position is when kids (and sometimes adults) sit flat on their bottoms with their legs splayed out to each side, knees bent and feet pointing outwards - forming the letter 'W'.

W sitting position

But whilst it may be your child's default mode when watching TV or playing, it may be causing lasting damage to their posture. This in turn can affect their growth and development and lead to orthopedic issues.

What it's bad for:

 - Hips
- Knees
- Ankles
- Postural muscles (found in your back, abdomen and hips)
- Core stability development

Why is it bad?

Whereas crossed legs, side-sitting, or sitting with your legs stretched out in front of you engages core strength, the 'W' position does not challenge the muscles in our back and abdomen - which we need to keep us upright.

It's particularly risky for very young children to adopt this position, as they are still very much developing and adapting their posture. Dr Challoner provides some useful tips on preventing your child from sitting in this position for prolonged amounts of time.

One way of ensuring they don't get into the habit is by praising their posture when they are in a different position.

What you can do? 

Everything in moderation. If the child is transitioning in and out of different positions and occasionally chooses “W” sitting then this should not be concerning. But if the child is only sitting “W” style, then alternative positions should be utilized. In this instance, I urge you to encourage other positions like kneeling, ½ kneeling, long sitting, side sitting, cross legged (criss-cross applesauce), or a deep squat.

 

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