Product Review - The Calm Parent AM & PM

~ Posted on Tuesday, September 18, 2012 at 8:23 AM ~

When I read in the pitch on how I can learn to stop screaming, overreacting and taking my child’s behavior personally, and at the same time remain calm even in the most stressful parenting situations, I told myself I have to review this products! And it is so awesome that the sponsor is willing to send the products to me all the way in Malaysia! Without further delay, here goes my review for the "The Calm Parent AM & PM":

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Description from the product page:
"Do you try your best not to scream at your kids, but you boil over with frustration and anger anyway? Does their behavior have you constantly worried and upset? Staying calm with a child who’s disrespectful and who acts out doesn’t come naturally for parents. That’s why so many have sought help over the last 25 years with Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC, a renowned expert in the art and science of parenting calmly, not anxiously. In her new, at–home program, The Calm Parent AM & PM, Debbie shows you how to stop screaming, overreacting and taking your child’s behavior personally, and remain calm even in the most stressful parenting situations."

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A little bit more info on the products, if you see the picture above, I received a set of 6 CDs and a book for my review. Product Includes: 3 Calm Parenting lessons on CD, 1 AM audio lesson, 1 PM audio lesson, 1 Bonus audio lesson: The Instant Calm Down & 113–page instruction manual.

It took me about 3 months to get through all the CDs and book before I can come up with the review post that you are reading now! Partly because I was swamped with other product reviews as well as caring our now 3.5 years old boy and also our hyperactive 1 year old girl.

Back to my review, the first thing I did is to take the introductory assessment. Then I put on the CD and read the book as well and find myself nodding a lot of times as I can't help but to agree with how similar the situation I am in as I handle the care of my 2 kids full time.

Yes, I am guilty of the frustrations (towards myself and my kids) and nagging and even yelling at my 3.5 years old boy whenever I caught him doing mischievous things, not listening to my instructions or hitting his baby sister. It really doesn't help when my next door neighbor is having a major house renovation and the constant drilling, hacking and hammering noises that starts from 8.30am on and off until 5-6pm every day, even on Saturdays just add on to the frustration and stress I have!

To summarise my feedback:

CD & Book wise:

* Volume too loud particularly on CD1

* There are few occasions when the speaker sometimes talks too fast making it hard for me to understand what was being said. I had to rewind a couple of times so that I did not miss anything.

* I was hoping that the book could be smaller in size so that it is easy to carry around, or perhaps a small booklet with important points on instant calm-down techniques.

Lessons learned / Points taken:

* We should parent thoughtfully, not reactively.

* The reason why we reacted is because we think we have no choice, and that we are fused to our kids

* Reactivity comes in other forms (not just yelling, screaming) it can also be in the forms of rejection, controlling, distancing, tuning child out, manipulating, threatening, giving in, nagging as well.

* We need to get our focus OFF our child and get it on ourselves! For example: if I want my child to be responsible, then I have to act responsibly with him!

The above are just some of the crucial notes that I wanted to share with you guys based on my review. Do consider getting this if you would like to improve your parenting skills and parent calmly in whatever situations!

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You can find out more from http://www.empoweringparents.com/ , Facebook or Twitter.

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I received no monetary compensation for this review, I was provided with the products in order to facilitate my review. All opinions expressed in this post are my own. Please do your own research when purchasing products, as your opinions may differ from mine.

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Music Review - Light for the Lost Boy (Andrew Peterson)

~ Posted on Friday, September 7, 2012 at 7:51 AM ~

I would like to share my feedback and review on another awesome album by Andrew Peterson that I get to review. The album is called “Light for the Lost Boy” and was released on August 28th, 2012. Here goes my review...

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Light for the Lost Boy (Andrew Peterson)

One of the songs in the album which caught my attention is "Rest Easy". I've been playing this song over and over again and just find myself relaxing and feel peaceful. The lyrics are so meaningful and touched my heart.

To be honest, as a SAHM with 2 kids and pretty much occupied with caring the kids 24/7/365, not to mention unofficially teaching my 3 years old boy since few weeks back, my 1 year old getting more and more mobile and seeks my attention all the time and also trying to maintain my blogging passion, I was just listening to this song and soaking in the lyrics of the song and all of a sudden, it makes me feel like God is telling me these words from the song:

"You don't have to work so hard
You can rest easy
You don't have to prove yourself
You're already mine
You don't have to hide your heart
I already love you
I hold it in mine
So you can rest easy "

Some other noteworthy songs in this album are "Come Back Soon", "Day by Day" which has an upbeat tune to dance to, "Carry the Fire" and "Don't You Want to Thank Someone".

Andrew Peterson's songs are very very nice to listen to (not to mention his sultry sand papery voice which is dreamlike hahaha), wonderful lyrics which is definitely inspiring and uplifting! Go on, get a copy, no regrets to get this album!

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You can purchase it from The Rabbit Room store or the iTunes Store.

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I received no monetary compensation for this review, I was provided with the 10-track album in MP3 format to assist my review. All opinions expressed in this post are my own. Please do your own research when purchasing products, as your opinions may differ from mine.

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Disappointed...

~ Posted on Monday, August 27, 2012 at 7:56 AM ~

I was feeling a tad disappointed recently... no wait, a tad doesn't justify it...

I was feeling REALLY disappointed with someone over something.

I don't want to elaborate further other than I have been trying to share my experience and advice and just found out, oh well, maybe my sharing doesn't matter at all.

Hubby asked me why am I getting so worked up and why do I care so much when the person doesn't want to bother? It's their own choice and they will be responsible for their own choices. If what we did doesn't make any impact, then why bother anymore?

Disappointed... really... not just at the fact that I wasted my time trying to encourage and motivate and shared what I knew, but also at the fact that if only the person could just hang in there and trust and don't doubt at all...

Sigh... disappointment...

Which just makes me more wary to share my experience and knowledge... really...

I mean, why bother to help when your advice is not heeded?

Or maybe I should not expect anything so that I won't be disappointed?

Sigh... sorry for wasting your time to read this, just need to rant out a lil' bit...