What is Freedom?

~ Posted on Friday, September 10, 2010 at 1:13 AM ~

Phewww... have been quite busy lately with baking, birthday celebrations, farewell treat for my ex-colleagues and all. Not to mention on the personal front, caring and playing with Ben, reviewing a couple of books and liaising with a few product sponsors for more product reviews (hooray!) and combating tons of spam comments on my blog!

Talking about farewell treat for my ex-colleagues, I stumbled upon this few pictures I took on my last day at work prior to becoming a SAHM in June 2009.

The yummylicious cheesecake bought by my ex-supervisor - which I gobbled almost half of it hehehehe... One day people! One day I will make this! (*Cross fingers*)

My cubicle...

The notebook which I had the privilege to spill water TWICE into, once during my clumsy pregnancy stage and once when I returned back to work after my maternity leave.

The first time resulted in the notebook being admitted to the ICU server room to dry away the water which seeped into the keyboard.

Then there used to be a big basket which is always stuffed to the brim with candies and sweets and chocolates. A habit I got since my banking days before this job.

Colleagues going to the pantry who passed by my cubicle always stopped by to take some of the sweet treats and it was real nice to see them enjoying the goodies!

What's on the right side of my cubicle...

A giant laser printer which I love cos I get to do my printing and scanning real fast hehehehe...

The few big hardcover files on the table are the very often used files on my daily tasks-website changes, data migration stuff, project and new system stuff..,

So anyway, if you asked me whether I want to return back to work now, which I do get asked very often nowadays,.. in fact latest was just yesterday by my ex-supervisor during another farewell treat, I'd say "Nope. Full-time mummy is full-time now. No more returning back to work."

I've been getting calls from headhunters for banking jobs (I worked in a bank before), then also offered part-time jobs to conduct training on programming stuff (which I did before and pays very well too...) and also getting requests to report work (humorously) via Facebook from my ex-team lead in the bank I worked before.

It was flattering to know that I'm still in demand and I could get a job if I decide to return back to the working world.

But I'm happier now.

I'm freed from:

* having to wake up every morning dreading the traffic jam to and fro

* having to wake up every morning getting headaches on what to wear for that day (and thank God I'm not into make-up at all else more headaches!)

* being tied up with meetings after meetings, minutes after minutes, discussions after discussions

* office politics - of being stabbed in the back despite giving my best committed effort in making things work

* worrying about day end, month end, year end processing which often caused great stress as it typically means production issues which need to be resolved ASAP

* having to justify my contributions to the company and fight for every single KPI points in order to get a raise or at least maintain good performance for the year

Read: Ephesians 3:12 (NIV), Ecclesiastes 2:26 (NIV)

Of course, being a SAHM to me, is way tougher than my previous jobs all put together. You get no salary (OK, OK, I do get a small salary from hubby for helping him out with his business admin side), no bonus, no company trips (oh well, hubby and I always said family outing = company trip hahahaha!), no annual leaves etc etc.

And being a SAHM is lonely. Instead of your 4 office cubicle walls, you get 4 house walls.

But you get to be tormented to play with your kid, watch them grow up day by day, see them learned new things, things that you taught them, or didn't even realised you taught them until you saw them doing it and then you went "Oh wow! He remembered that!"

Heck, even the simplest thing like opening a bottle will elicit an "Oooooohhh" response from your child - what a wonderful feeling of accomplishing something great hahahha...

And of course, I feel by being a SAHM, I'm answering God's call. I know He has plans for all of us and me being a SAHM is one of it. And I know He provides whatever we are lacking.

Read: 1 Timothy 6:17 (NIV), 1 Peter 4:11 (NIV)

Ex-colleagues asked me what I do at home other than caring for Ben? Oh well, just because I'm a SAHM now doesn't mean I stop learning and doing new things.

Read: Ecclesiastes 10:18 (NIV)

I keep finding things to keep myself busy and motivated. Things like:

* Doing product reviews - books, music, baby products, household products and so on.

* Blogging - this really keep me sane and getting comments from you guys is motivating too! Even through blogging, I keep doing new stuff like Youtube, Twitter, Facebook fan page and so on...

* Baking! I'm still very very new in this, at the moment trying to practise more on the muffins before I venture to cakes, pies or breads...

These are some of the things that keep me busy everyday (ON TOP of caring for Ben of course). Whatever spare time I get when Ben is busy playing by himself or when he takes his day time nap or after he goes to bed at night, I get to do my own stuff. It may not amount to much time.

But I feel freer. And happier.

More than ever...

Read: Psalm 119:45 (NIV), 2 Corinthians 3:17 (NIV)

Comments (11) -

Laura @ THe Things I Said I'd Never Do

Mmmmm.  That cheesecake looks yummy.  

It's interesting how everyone defines freedom differently.  I work part time and I find those 3 days at work to be my freedom.  Maybe it's because when I'm home and the baby is napping I feel like I should be doing laundry.  And I really hate laundry. Smile


What a coincident, I had been working in a bank since I left school till 5 years ago. I, too, felt the freedom, the no more traffic jam thing, and most important get to be with my 2 teenage sons. Told hubby that teenagers are at their most vulnerable moment and I want to be around to make sure they grow to be a good person. Loving every minute of it. Hope you have a great weekend ahead, smiles.


Oh yes, talk about spam comments, they seem to be even more than usual also on my blog, blah!
As for the happy: congratulations Smile it's a thing many people look for their whole life Smile

Catheryn  @ Pink Bibs

Love this post Jenny!

All the un-perk perks of a SAHM are just so wonderful, priceless and God's greatest gift. Smile

I'm a full-time mummy

Hi Laura!
Thanks for your feedback. I'm not keen on doing laundry too... although we rely on the washing machine, but still, hanging the clothes and ironing it after that... yeah... hate that too... Tong

Hey Aries!
Thanks for your feedback, you have a lovely weekend too! Laughing

Hi Vivienne!
Welcome back, long time no hear from you! Laughing I'm still combating the spam comments... sigh... darn annoying!

Hey Catheryn!
Glad you enjoyed this post.

Jade @ No Longer 25

Stopping by from SITS.

I'm glad to hear you are happy - obviously you made the right choice for you and your family. It's interesting to think about what we'll do in the future when we have a family. I think a part time thing would suit us best but only time will tell.

Have a great weekend,

I'm a full-time mummy

Hello Jade!
Thanks for dropping by and leaving your comments! Hope you have a great weekend too! Laughing


i do agree by being a SAHM you get rather lonely from lack of social interactions (all day with a baby... wheeeee!!)

And i agree with Laura too. If I have spare time at home (when baby's napping), I feel like obligeated to do other things around the house like cook, clean, iron, etc... If I sleep I feel guilty... AND not to mention my husband is a Work At Home Daddy... So it's like having someone look out for what you're doing too...

I like to go outside to "escape"! :-D

I'm a full-time mummy

Hi farhana!
Thanks for your comment! My hubby also works from home most of the time when he's not out meeting clients but I'm not too concerned with him checking out what I'm doing cos I'll pass Ben to him to spend quality time with hahahahahah...


You are a superb example of a what a good mom is. Still finding time to unwind through things that not only benefit yourself but also your family. Taking care of your kid is already a great feat! And you did it right.

I'm a full-time mummy

Hello hampers!
Thanks for your comment!

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