What If My Parents Were Still Alive?

~ Posted on Wednesday, January 2, 2013 at 7:44 AM ~

I was just thinking the other day... wouldn't it be great if my parents were still alive? Wouldn't it be nice if I could bring my 2 kiddos to visit their grandfather and grandmother? Another place that I can drive and fetch my kiddos to, let them see my birth place, or the place where I grew up and stay before I shifted here.

I have written a post on parenting with extended family in May 2012 and just want to repeat my opinion:

"I think it is good to have extended family around. It gives a sense of belonging to a larger scale of family root and we are also showing and displaying to our children how we should be treated when we get old one day..."

My FIL passed away in Dec 2004, my dad in April 2006 and my mum in January 2007. There's only my 68 years old MIL left for my 2 kiddos to terrorised at (hehehe) so yeah, I do wonder what if my parents were still alive now...

Picture above taken a year ago of my MIL with my 2 kids...

I would've loved to fetch my kiddos every now and then to visit my parents, let them dote on my kiddos etc etc. Hmmm...

How about you? Does your child get to spend time with their grandparents? What do they do?

I'm a full-time mummy

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nikki krutz

My kids know their grandparents. my mom is pretty involved, going to the kids activities/sports etc. my dad is involved for their sports. they have very little involvement with their dads' sides of the family. my GRANDFATHER is the most involved. my kids are very attached to him, and so am i. i was his first grandchild and my oldest son is his first great grandchild. We love our poppy! Smile

Donna George

That is great if the grandparents are nice. My parents are not, so it's a good thing that they love 160 miles away and my kids have limited access. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but only in small doses.

Theresa @ Faith and Family Reviews

My dad and my husband's father are both gone. We have my mil who is 80 and my mom left, but my mom lives 1600 miles away. It's tough. I grew up surrounded by extended family - my dad had four siblings, my mom had five sisters. It was great. Looking forward to a 24 day visit with my mom this year though. Very excited!

Esley Chin

Its great to see our child to be around with the grandparents and grow up in the extended family, but unfortunately my child only able to meet her grandparents (my husband's parents). We do go back hometown at least twice a month. My own parents are in overseas and my child has never meet them before, such a regret.

lynn matthews

i am blessed that both parents r alive

denise smith

both my parents are still alive i am 39 years old so i am lucky to still have them. i am so thankful to that my parents can see my kids born and hopefull grow up also .    


My mother passed away a year ago but my son never knew her because we didn't talk. The only grandparent he knows is his dad's mom which treats me like I am one of her kids.  I couldn't ask for a better family.  Thanks for posting this.  My son is pretty close to her.


I wished I knew my extended family. I am sad that I am not even close with most of my relatives. I did not have a lot of time with my grandparents and my parents were not young when they had me. I am hoping I will be able to have kids early so that they would not have to share the pain of not being able to spend a great deal of time with their grandparents like I did.


My father and mother in law are both alive and my mom too. So yeah, they are able to play with their grand kids. How I wish my father is alive too to see my 2 kids growing up here at our home.

Stephanie Larison

Stephanie Larison says:

I am so lucky to have both of my parents, and my husbands parents still around. My parents see my daughter more then the in-laws, but that's because we're closer in distance. My daughter is having the close relationship with both sets of her grandparents that I never got growing up. Mine just didn't really care, which is sad.


My parents live in another state. I often wish my children could visit their grandparents more often, but transportation can be expensive. I hope to let them visit in the next few upcoming months.

Lynnette Watkins

Lynnette Watkins says:

Both of my parents are gone too. My Mother passed in 1971 I was only 14. My Father passed in 2006 and I miss him very much. Both of my parents died suddenly. I didn't get a chance to have that talk with my father on how to prepare for his passing. I wish I did now, but I always passed on talking about it. Both of my parents did not have any siblings so my extended family is very small. That's why I had 2 children so they could be there for each other. If I had one wish it would be to have them with me now,

Denise Taylor-Dennis

My son only sees my mom, my husband's family is in another state.  My father passed away when I was in my 20s.

tammy saylor

My kids grandparents have all passed away and i feel my kids missed out alot .

ashima gupta

I'm still single..
We don't get to spend much time with my grandmother. She's our only grandparent still living..

Adriana G

My children did not really get to know my parents, they passed away at an early age. Grandparents make a stronger family. God Bless them.


We live with my parents so they both get to enjoy my kids. Smile


I never got to know my grandparents so i appreciate others who have family and who care.


I am the grandma. When my daughter lived close by she'd rarely visit.Now they live out of state and didn't even e-mail or call at Christmas.

Heidi LeMay

My grandmother passed away,but I'm glad my daughter got to meet her. My 21yr old daughter passed away in July 2011.She was my only child & my life. I'm so thankful I have my mother here with me to help me through tough times. Families are the most important thing.

kelly nicholson

kelly nicholson says:

im sure they are looking after you from beyond,,believe


I know exactly how you feel.  My mom passed September 13, 1996 and my dad passed January 16, 1999 (2 years and 4 months apart).  My son/only child was 5 and 7, respectively, when they passed so he has very limited memories of them.  I so wish he would have grown up knowing my parents and being able to spend time with both of them.  

Gaynell Holmes

I grew up knowing & spending time with both of my parents.

deena vanbergen

I am the grandparent, and I get to be with all my grandchildren all the time. They are a true blessing...and I love them dearly.They are  one of the highlights of my life.

Andrea Brown

My mom passed away when I was only 6 months old and I have never known my dad. My grandparents raised me as their own. They are getting on up there in age, and I am thankful everyday my kids have them.


My dad passed away a year ago today.  My kiddos' are all grown, and they had all their grandparents growing up.  We we lucky


I am very blessed to have parents who are very much a part of my kids lives; they live 15 hrs away but always fly them out for a visit every summer. I don't know what I would do without them


I wish I grew up knowing my grandparents too!

Bashir Ahmed

I am Thankful to GOD, My Mom and dad both are alive and my kids are very happy with them. Sad for those who are missing their parents Frown

Sylvia Ortiz

Both my parents and my husbands parents are ALL still with us. However, my Mom moved away when my sister's and I were 15 & 16 years of age, so my kids didn't have a "Grandma's House" to go visit. But my Dad has been an exceptional "Grandfather", who is involved with ALL his: 5 children, 3 step-children, 21 grandchildren and 10 great-grandchildren - going to every birthday party, graduation, etc. He is most-definitely the "root" of our family!

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