7 Links Challenge!

~ Posted on Saturday, July 17, 2010 at 1:33 PM ~

Oh yipee! I'm so excited! I'm taking the "7 Link Challenge" which is hosted on Problogger. The idea is to publish a post that is a list of 7 links to posts that you and others have written that respond to the following 7 categories. The links are as follow:

* Your first post: Home Sweet Home! is my first post in my own blog domain. It is kinda nostalgic cos after almost 13 months of blogging on Blogger, I decided to make the decision to leave it and go for my own blog domain and designed my own blog from scratch. Although the migration process is tiring and draining (I could only tinkle with the blog images and design when Ben is asleep and I'm not a web programmer or designer so everything is DIY and trial along the way) but at the end of the day, when everything is completed, it feels good-kinda like giving birth to another baby! Hahaha...

* A post you enjoyed writing the most: That would be one of my latest post "How To Exercise Your Toddler's Brain?".

As a SAHM, I am very fortunate to be able to take lots of pictures of my mischievious and ever curious toddler, so some of those pictures are real cute and I decided to write up a funny post based on some of Benjamin's latest silly antics. I hope you guys will enjoy this post as much as I do!

* A post which had a great discussion: That'd be a post entitled "After Two Years..." which was written when I had my menses back. Sorry if this is TMI for you to handle, but after two years (hence the title), the day I dreaded finally arrives... It's really been a bliss during those menses-free phase but I guess I shouldn't complain much as I am still able to breastfeed my toddler (16.5 months old now) without any problems at all!

* A post on someone else’s blog that you wish you’d written: I saw this article about "What Makes a Good Friend?" in a Christian website and decided to share it with my blog readers through my blog meme "Today's Awesome Discovery". I did add on my comments after the article as that is what I normally do (rather than just plain copy and paste other people's posts for sharing, I think there's a nicer touch if I add in my own notes and comments following the article shared)


* Your most helpful post: During my phase of migrating over from Blogger to my own self-hosted website, I learned a lot of things. So, as and when I have the spare time to blog about it, I do try to share out what I learned through my own blog meme again "Today's Awesome Discovery". So far, I had only written a tutorial post called "What is Gravatar?".


* A post with a title that you are proud of: Oh wow... when I have the time to think clearly, I can come up with a lot of funny post titles but I guess for now, that'll have to be "Ben Gogh in the Making??" Yes, you read that right, Ben Gogh.. not Van Gogh.. click on the link to read more on why I am proud of this title... Heheh...


* A post that you wish more people had read: Hmmm... I'd love it if everyone read ALL of my posts hahahaha... but if I am to choose one, well, I guess it'll have to be "What Makes a Good Friend?". I feel that it is a very inspiring article and wished more people could read this..

So there you have it... I've taken and survived the 7 Link Challenge! Woohoo!

What Makes a Good Friend?

~ Posted on Friday, July 16, 2010 at 11:33 PM ~

Here's a new article I came across that I would like to share with you guys on my blog meme:

What Makes a Good Friend?
By :  Paul Schlieker

Before we examine Proverbs to discover "What makes a good friend?" let's visit Charlie Brown. In one of Charles Schulz's comic strips "good ol' Charlie Brown" pays a visit to Lucy's five-cent sidewalk psychiatric stand. Totally dejected Charlie says to his would-be counselor, "I can't help it. I feel lonely, depressed." "This is ridiculous!" Lucy insists.

"You should be ashamed of yourself, Charlie Brown! You've got the whole world to live in!" she continues. "There's beauty all around you! There are things to do. Great things to be accomplished! No man treads the earth alone! We are all together- one generation taking up where the other generation has left off!" Slowly a smile spreads across Charlie's face as Lucy's words begin to sink in. "You're right, Lucy! You're right! You've made me see things differently, I realize now that I am part of the world. I am not alone. I have friends!" Lucy quickly replies, "Name one!"

Everyone needs friends. It is the second most basic relationship in life. Jesus said that the two most important commandments are to love God with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself. We often experience God's love through the love of a friend. People usually don't care if they have a friend in Jesus until they see that they have a friend in us. Proverbs clearly tells us what makes a good friend - how to develop and maintain meaningful friendships.

#1. What makes a good friend? Faithfulness. Friends do not desert each other when times are bad.

Proverbs 17:17 - A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Proverbs 27:10 - Do not forsake your friend and the friend of your father, and do not go to your brother's house when disaster strikes you - better a neighbor nearby than a brother far away.

One of the greatest friendships in the Bible was that of David and Jonathan. When Jonathan's father, King Saul hated David enough to kill him, Jonathan protected David. (Read the story in I Samuel 20:30-33.)

#2. What makes a good friend? Keeping confidences. Friends do not gossip.

Proverbs 16:28 - A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends.
Proverbs 11:13 - A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.

As a friend you'll know details and secrets of your friend's life. Friends do not gossip. Gossip is telling detrimental things about another person to someone who is not a part of the problem or the solution. Friends know when to tell someone else (such as in cases of abuse) and when to keep confidences.

#3. What makes a good friend? Kindness. Friends do not carry jokes or pranks too far.

Proverbs 26:18-19 - Like a madman shooting firebrands or deadly arrows is a man who deceives his neighbor and says, "I was only joking!"

Fathers can help their children by teaching them the difference between a joke or harmless prank and going too far.

#4. What makes a good friend? Do not co-sign for each other. Friends encourage each other to live within their means.

Money is often the cause of bitterness between close friends.

Proverbs 6:1-5 - My son, if you have put up security for your neighbor, if you have struck hands in pledge for another, if you have been trapped by what you said, ensnared by the words of your mouth, then do this my son, to free yourself, since you have fallen into your neighbor's hands: Go and humble yourself; press your plea with your neighbor! Allow no sleep to your eyes, no slumber to your eyelids. Free yourself, like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter, like a bird from the snare of the fowler.

Proverbs 17:18 - A man lacking in judgment strikes hands in pledge and puts up security for his neighbor.

When you co-sign, you accept responsibility for the debts of others. When you co-sign you are enabling your friend to buy something he cannot afford. The Bible calls that "putting up security" or being "surity."

When we were first married, we decided to buy a vacuum cleaner. Even though we had the money to buy it, the salesman told us that we could delay the payment for three months if we put it on credit. We thought that was a good idea. Why pay for it now if we can wait three months? The problem was that they wouldn't qualify us for the payment plan since we didn't have a credit history. Neither of us had ever had a credit card. The salesman suggested that we ask someone to co-sign the loan. So, we asked a Christian friend. Fortunately for us, he knew the teaching of Proverbs better than we did. He showed us these verses and refused to co-sign. We were grateful for the Biblical instruction and bought the vacuum cleaner with cash. Our friend knew what makes a good friend.

It is best to encourage your friends to buy only what they can afford. When someone wants something they can't afford, encourage them to save until they can buy it. If your friend is truly in need, it is better to give them a gift rather than to loan or co-sign.

#5. What makes a good friend? Generosity. Friends do not turn away when their friend is in need.

Proverbs 3:28 - Do not say to your neighbor, "Come back later; I'll give it tomorrow" - when you now have it with you.

We have all been given the same amount of time - 24 hours a day. Even with our busy lives, it amazes me how many people have time to give to their friends. When my wife was sick for a prolonged period of time many friends helped us. They brought in meals, did the ironing, ran errands and prayed for us. Many hours were given. Did they have nothing else to do? Were their days empty? I don't think so. These were acts of friendship.

#6. What makes a good friend? Forgiveness. Friends do not seek revenge.

Proverbs 24:29 - Do not say, "I'll do to him as he has done to me; I'll pay that man back for what he did."
Proverbs 20:22 - Do not say, "I'll pay you back for this wrong!" Wait for the Lord, and he will deliver you.

Our fallen human nature says, "Don't get mad - get even." Jesus says we must forgive - not 7 times, but 70 X 7. Other than Jesus, every friend is imperfect. We must be ready to forgive our friends, just like they have to forgive us.

#7. What makes a good friend? Bringing out the best in each other. Friends do not ask their friends to participate in sin. They look out for each other.

Proverbs 16:29 - A violent man entices his neighbor and leads him down a path that is not good.
Proverbs 22:24 - Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared.

On October 24, 2008 the Daily Mail (a British newspaper), stated that a female police constable appeared in court charged with burglary and misconduct in public office after she allegedly abused her position to help her friends commit crimes.

This 26-year-old woman is said to have passed on confidential information from police computer systems to her boyfriend and others. She is also accused of helping a friend to steal thousands of pounds from a shop by listening to traffic on her police radio to warn him if police were on his tail.

This is not the behavior of true friends.

#8. What makes a good friend? Telling the truth - even if it is "bad news". Friends do not with-hold the truth in order to save the other person's feelings.

Proverbs 27:17 - As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:6 - Wounds from a friend can be trusted.
Proverbs 27:9 - The pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest counsel.

A girl saw her friend doing something that was self-destructive. What would a friend do? If she confronted her or told her parents, it would certainly ruin their friendship.

A man saw a friend acting in a way that would probably destroy his friend's family. What would a friend do? In this case, he did nothing because he didn't want to lose the friendship.

True friends put the needs of a friend before their own need to keep the friendship.

We all need someone who will tell us the truth in a loving way. It is hard to grow without the help of our friends. It's never easy, but when you must tell someone the truth, use this approach: speak calmly, clearly, directly, honestly and respectfully. This is how Jesus would confront someone.

#9. What makes a good friend? Unselfishness. Friends look out for the interests of each other.

Proverbs 17:17 - A friend loves at all time.
Proverbs 18:1 - A unfriendly man pursues selfish ends.

On August 5, 1936, at the Berlin Olympic Stadium it was a little past nine in the evening. The pole vault event had lasted longer than expected.

The final three competitors were Earl Meadows of the United States and two close friends from Japan, Shuhei Nishida and Sueo Oe. The bar was at 14 feet 3 1/4 inches, which Earl Meadows cleared on his second try. Nishida and Oe missed all three attempts. The two Japanese continued to jump for second and third place, but the competition ended without a conclusion when it became too dark to continue.

"Oe and I went back to the Olympic Village certain we had tied, since we both jumped identical heights," Nishida remembered. (At that time they did not have a tie breaking rule.)

The officials decided to award the silver medal to Nishida. They never fully explained their reasoning. Oe was awarded the bronze. Nishida was not happy with the decision. When they got back to Japan both Oe and Nishida decided to cut their medals in half. Then they joined half of the silver medal with half of the bronze medal for each of them. The medals were called the Medals of Eternal Friendship.

Soon after Oe was killed in World War II. His medal is on display at the National Stadium in Tokyo. What an unselfish act on the part of a friend.

At the end of the day, what makes a good friend? Practicing the golden rule. Friends treat each other as they would like to be treated.

Jesus said, "I have called you friends." John 15:15. How does Jesus treat us? That's our best example of what makes a good friend.

How can you be a good friend?

 

I would just like to add a bit of comment with regards to this post... ever since I got my own domain and moved out of Blogger into this self-hosted website, I've been feeling pretty good and satisfied with using this blog engine. Until 3 of you awesome bloggy friends informed me that you guys are not able to leave me a comment. Seriously and honestly I had no idea how that could happened, since I could post comments and others could do so as well. Which got me thinking maybe there are many others who have been blog hopping and not able to leave me a comment too...

Anyway, I'm still trying to figure out the solutions to this. I'm definitely not giving up on this blog engine (I don't like Wordpress to be honest, so I will not even consider that) and I would just like to thank you guys for taking the trouble to inform me (via Twitter, email and even leaving me comments in my old Blogger post - which I still checked daily for my routine blog hopping activities...)

I would also like to thank my pet sister, Sheryl for telling me that my latest product review post looks weird. I didn't know this at all (sigh, sigh... my bad!) Apparently there was some code error in my product review post which if you are using Mozilla, you wouldn't even noticed anything at all, but if you are using IE, then you will see the post shown half with all the sidebars gone. Hubby helped to fix the error in the code already and everything is back to normal (I hope!)

Thank you guys, it's people like you guys that made me more determined to stay on blogging and making this blog as nice as I can so that it leaves you a good feeling after visiting here. I hope I am able to find the solutions to the commenting issues. In the meantime, thank you again, for your feedback and reading my blog.

Thank you to all of you, good friends!

* Btw, if there are any other issues or problems you encountered on this blog, I would appreciate if you could drop me a note via Twitter or an email at: imafulltimemummy (at) gmail (dot) com

Getting to Know Me!

~ Posted on Sunday, July 11, 2010 at 2:24 PM ~

This is my 1st GTKY post ever since I moved out of Blogger to my own self-hosted website. So, here goes this week's questions for you guys to know me a little bit more...

1. What is YOUR definition of sexy?

I'd have to say confidence.

2. Would you rather clean up puke or change a poopy diaper?
Done both. Not really grossed out with either.

Though one time I actually felt a bit grossed out cleaning up a puke... from my 1st niece. I'm not sure why I did the cleaning instead of her parents who just sat there looking at me cleaning and scrubbing the floor, but it was at my house and we're actually doing a birthday party for Ben, so I figured I gotta clean up the mess before the other kids get grossed out more! I think I'm grossed out at the fact that I'm cleaning puke when the parents should be the one doing it?

As for poop, when Ben started taking solids at 6 months old, I actually started a solid journal log, noting down what he ate everyday, whether he pooped that day, and whenever I can, I even took pictures of his poop. Somehow I felt that its good to do so, in case he felt sick and I need to show to the paed what he has been eating and what he has been pooping out. Still kept that journal. I'm OK with his puke, poop whatever... and I'm glad I have a good sense of humor when he got me into shitty situations like this:

(*Picture of Ben at 3 months old jet-spraying his poop on my lap)

3. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
Definitely an introvert. Real shy upfront.. but I guess when you get to know me more, I'll open up and be extrovert.

4. If you had to give up one of your 5 senses for a year..which one would you give up?
Ermm.. how about hearing? At least people can still write and I can still read and reply back, right?

5. Cake or Pie?
Definitely cake!

6. If you could play any character on TV (old or current) who would you play?
Nothing I could think of for now. Have not been watching much TV anyway...

7. My favorite website is.....?
Erm... will it be too vain to say it would have to be my own website? Oh come on, I put in so much hardwork into getting my own domain, designing everything from scratch so I think it should be my favorite website!! Hehehe...

8. The highlight of my day is....?
When Ben takes his daytime naps or when he goes to sleep after 10m+. That's when I can get down to my own blogging and catching up on my friends' and relatives' updates in Facebook and stuff.

That's all for now! Thanks for reading!