What I Needed During My Pregnancy While Still Breastfeeding...

~ Posted on Friday, March 16, 2012 at 7:00 PM ~

** Welcome to the Pregnancy Necessities Carnival! This post was written for inclusion in the Pregnancy Necessities Carnival hosted by Parenting God’s Children. Today, participants share what they simply cannot live without during their pregnancies or simply what to gather for their upcoming new addition. Please see the full list of links to the other carnival submissions at the end of this post. Enjoy! ***

We found out I was pregnant when Ben is about 2 years+ old. I was still breastfeeding him about 3-4 times daily then.

Honestly speaking, I don't know anyone around me who breastfeed more than a year, let alone, one who STILL breastfeed while she is pregnant. So it is crucial for me to find out as much information I can about breastfeeding during pregnancy.

So what I really needed during my 2nd pregnancy while I was still breastfeeding are:

Information! Lots and lots of it!

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Strong will

  • People who know me will know that I've always been saying that I will continue breastfeeding as long as Ben wants it and as long as I can still produce breastmilk for him, so being pregnant should hopefully not be an obstacle or an excuse to wean him off breastfeeding.
  • Despite hearing from our gynae and pead about weaning, I stood firm and breastfeed on!


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  • On the family side, my hubby has been very helpful and has been spending more time with Ben even though he's so tired with his work and all so that I could have some 'me' time and rest for a while. So yes, I'm very very thankful and grateful for his help and support.

So the above are some of the necessities during my 2nd pregnancy.

To sum it, I breastfed throughout the pregnancy (though my BM stopped at 5th month, that doesn't stop my boy from continuing on!), delivered my 2nd baby at 39 weeks of pregnancy and is now tandem nursing my 2 kids at 6 months going on!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants!

How To Be Respectful Despite Disagreeing On Parenting Styles...

~ Posted on Tuesday, February 14, 2012 at 10:05 AM ~

Welcome to the February 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Respectful Interactions With Other Parents

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have focused on how we can communicate with other parents compassionately.

As a mummy blogger, I do receive questions from other mummies with regards to breastfeeding, baby care, vaccination, parenting style and so on. I try my best to share my experience with these mummies and also explained the logic why we adopted such methods and so on. Now as a parent, we will surely meet with other parents who will not agree with our parenting style.

What this post does is how we can have respectful interactions with other parents though we might not agree with their parenting methods or style. Below are some of the things we do to be respectful to others despite disagreeing with others parenting styles:

* Focus on the things we agreed on

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Rather than trying to defend or criticize further, we should focus on the things we agreed on. For example, when Ben started teething, my MIL tried to introduce the pacifier to him so that he can bite on it to relieve his teething. I do not agree with the use of a pacifier but rather than keep trying to explain and defend my points and reasons (I did initially!), I realised its just time wasting because other parents (especially old folks) are not easily swayed with our reasoning.

Why? They have been a parent long before you became one and most likely they have more number of children than you - hence more points for them to tell you to do what they say since they are older and they have more children than you. So, just agree to the point of 'Yes, Ben is teething, good for you to notice that too and I do agree we have to get him something to bite on to relieve his teething!' and we got him a teething toy instead of a pacifier.

And we're experiencing the same thing now, all over again with Alyson started teething recently, so I dug out the teething toy again and gave it to her the moment my MIL started mentioning about getting her to use a pacifier. War deflected...

* Learn from others

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Though I may not agree with some of the advice given by others (such as my caring MIL), I do hope they meant well and not trying to put me down and make themselves feel superior. And as much as we would want to tell them to mind their own business, do try to see from their point of view and see whether there are any truths or logics in what they say.

Other than the above, there are many other methods which I read from the Internet which I would like to try on such as:

* Do not criticize or change the other parent's discipline in front of the child, nor undermine that discipline when the other parent isn't around.

* It is okay to acknowledge a difference of opinion, call a time-out, go off to discuss it, and come back with a joint solution.

So what about you?

How do you remain respectful despite disagreeing with others on a parenting style?

My Favorite Posts in 2011

~ Posted on Thursday, December 29, 2011 at 8:50 AM ~

2011 is coming to an end so fast! This year is filled with bittersweet memories and I would like to showcase my favorite posts for each month in 2011.

If you are just visiting my blog or is a new follower, I hope you will spare a couple of minutes to check out these posts of mine. So here it goes:

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Thank you for reading and wish you a blessed year ahead!

* This post is in participation of Mama Kat's Writer Workshop